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On Rape and Comedy

This past weekend the Golden Globes Awards annual television event was broadcast.  Long-time favorite pair Tina Fey and Amy Poehler again held the honors of hosting the event, which among many other duties involves a long monologue (dualogue?) to open the ceremony.  During the opening segment, after all the oohing and aahing to congratulate (sometimes sarcastically) the attendees, Amy let drop the semi-awkward joke “In Into the Woods, Cinderella runs from her prince, Rapunzel is thrown from a tower for her prince, and Sleeping Beauty just thought she was getting coffee with Bill Cosby,” after which she and Tina traded impressions of Bill Cosby’s famous Jell-O Pudding Pop commercials, but with pills.  It was brutal, and ugly, and not entirely well pulled off, as you can see below.

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Finding Compersion

It’s been awhile since I’ve touched on the Polyamorous aspect of the relationship between Mrs. AP and I, and with good reason; we have been without any additional romantic partners for nearly a year now.  For those of you keeping score at home, yes, that stretches back to before I began this blog.  We did, as documented, visit an on-premise swingers club and play a bit.  We also had a date with a friend that resulted in quite a fun time for all.  Those two experiences very much trended toward the Swinger end of the Poly/Swing spectrum, however, and didn’t involve most of the more complex emotional aspects I associate with being Poly.  One of those aspects is finding compersion.

Compersion, as defined on Wikipedia — because it’s not a recognized word in any dictionary I can yet find — “is a state of empathetic happiness and joy experienced when an individual’s current or former romantic partner experiences happiness and joy through an outside source, including, but not limited to, another romantic interest. This can be experienced as any form of erotic or emotional empathy, depending on the person experiencing the emotion.”  Summarized in briefest form, it is experiencing happiness at a partner’s happiness.  It is one of the most basic tenets of the emotional maturity landscape encompassing being Poly.  it is also the aspect with which, I found, I had the most difficulty.

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Rape is Never Legitimate

This one takes the cake, SINful friends.  Of all the asinine, uninformed, deliberately ignorant statements I’ve ever heard a politician make — and I’ve been following politics since I was 14 and first picked up an issue of Time Magazine — never have I heard somebody make such a boldly boneheaded statement.

As reported by damn near everybody by now, Republican Senate Candidate Todd Akin of Missouri, during a KTVI-TV (a FOX affiliate in St. Louis), said that he does not believe women can become pregnant during “legitimate rape“.  Now, I don’t know what “legitimate rape” is, because as far as I know there is no such thing.  But wait, there’s more!  Mr. Akin went on to say “From what I understand from doctors, that’s really rare.  If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down. But let’s assume maybe that didn’t work or something. I think there should be some punishment, but the punishment ought to be on the rapist.”  I’m sorry, I have to sit down and process this for a minute.  Angry tirade’s full of inappropriate language to follow…

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30 Days of Truth, Day 30 : A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself

We’ve reached the end of our journey here in the 30 Days of Truth series!  I know it’s taken longer than 30 days, but life has a way of interfering sometimes.  Anyway, on to the finale!

 

Day 30

A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself

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30 Days of Truth, Day 29 : Something you hope to change about yourself. And why.

This is the next to last update in the 30 Days of Truth series!  It’s been tough at times but we’re almost done!

 

Day 29

Something you hope to change about yourself. And why.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 28 : What if you were pregnant or got someone pregnant, what would you do?

We’re in the final stretch of the 30 Days of Truth series!  Only 3 posts remain!  Let’s finish this thing strong!

 

Day 28

What if you were pregnant or got someone pregnant, what would you do?

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30 Days of Truth, Day 27 : What’s the best thing going for you right now?

Down to the last stretch of the 30 Days of Truth series, with only 4 posts remaining.  Let’s see what we have on deck today.

 

Day 27

What’s the best thing going for you right now?

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30 Days of Truth, Day 26 : Have you ever thought about giving up on life? If so, when and why?

In an effort to catch up, here’s another 30 Days of Truth entry hot on the heels of the previous entry!  Madness!  Insanity!  Mayhem!  Sounds like fun, right?

 

Day 26

Have you ever thought about giving up on life? If so, when and why?

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30 Days of Truth, Day 25 : The reason you believe you’re still alive today.

Here we are, back and better than ever with another entry into the 30 Days of Truth series.  Shall we?

 

Day 25

The reason you believe you’re still alive today.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 24 : Make a playlist to someone, and explain why you chose all the songs. (Just post the titles and artists and letter)

On with another update in the 30 Days of Truth series!  This one changes it up from the established form thus far.  Let’s see what it brings us, shall we?

 

Day 24

Make a playlist to someone, and explain why you chose all the songs. (Just post the titles and artists and letter)

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30 Days of Truth, Day 23 : Something you wish you had done in your life.

On with another update in the 30 Days of Truth series.  And look!  It’s only been 42 days since I started this exercise.  Let’s just say I’m not timely and move on to the update, shall we?

 

Day 23

Something you wish you had done in your life.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 22 : Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life.

Another Monday, another entry in the 30 Days of Truth series.  On with the show!

 

Day 22

Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 21 : (scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?

It’s time for another update in the 30 Days of Truth series.  Let’s jump right into it, shall we?

 

Day 21

(scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?

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30 Days of Truth, Day 20 : Your views on drugs and alcohol.

Back with another one of those block rocking, err, 30 days of Truth entries!  Sorry, had a little Chemical Brothers moment there.  Anyway, on with the show!

 

Day 20

Your views on drugs and alcohol.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 19 : What do you think of religion? Or what do you think of politics?

Almost two-thirds complete!  On with another entry in the 30 Days of Truth series!

 

Day 19

What do you think of religion? Or what do you think of politics?

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30 Days of Truth, Day 18 : Your views on gay marriage.

It’s a 2 for 1 special today in the 30 Days of Truth series!  Hey, I fell behind and need to catch up.  So, here we go:

Day 18

Your views on gay marriage.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 17 : A book you’ve read that changed your views on something.

Alright, so home stuff and lingering allergy issues knocked me out of commission here for awhile.  I’m trying to get back into it, and as such, here’s another entry in the 30 Days of Truth series!

 

Day 17

A book you’ve read that changed your views on something.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 16 : Someone or something you definitely could live without.

Just a tick over halfway through the 30 Days of Truth series.  On with today’s show, yes?

 

Day 16

Someone or something you definitely could live without.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 15 : Something or someone you couldn’t live without, because you’ve tried living without it.

We’ve reached the midway point of the 30 Days of Truth series!  I’m still trying to play catch-up on the days I missed, so here’s the second update of the day!

 

Day 15

Something or someone you couldn’t live without, because you’ve tried living without it.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 14 : A hero that has let you down. (letter)

Trying to catch up on my lag in the 30 Days of Truth series.  Here’s another one that took some thought to hammer out.

Day 14

A hero that has let you down. (letter)

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30 Days of Truth, Day 13 : A band or artist that has gotten you through some tough ass days. (write a letter.)

I have been away a few days from my 30 Days of Truth series updates.  I’ve had a whirlwind of things at home in the real world with which I’ve been dealing, including a minor illness the past 3 days.  I do apologize and will do my best to make it up.  Better late than never, as they day, so let’s get on with it, shall we?

Day 13

A band or artist that has gotten you through some tough ass days. (write a letter.)

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30 Days of Truth, Day 12 : Something you never get compliments on.

Today brings us yet another fun entry in the 30 Days of Truth series.  Today we expand on yesterday’s theme.

 

Day 12

Something you never get compliments on.

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Keeping Kink, Poly, and Swinging Safe

As I have mentioned several times before, I am a member on FetLife.  For those not in “The Know”, FetLife is a social networking site that caters specifically to Kinksters, Fetishists, and the BDSM Lifestyle.  It is NOT a dating site, although people have met and do meet new partners through the site.  The intent behind FetLife is to encourage communication among members, share information about local events, and to help everybody within the BDSM Lifestyle grow.  In this vein, any member can register to start a new Group, similar to the Groups on Facebook.  The theme of the group can be anything; for example, one very large Group is Kinky and Geeky.  Another is “Swingers” is not a bad word!  There are groups for those who enjoy strap-on play; groups for those who are or like women who squirt.  Groups for people under 35, or stay up late, are Polyamorous, or live in particular areas are also prevalent.

Through joining these groups and participating in the very active discussion threads — these groups operate more like the early 2000’s message boards, wherein multiple topics are used for beginning discussion threads — members can expand their social network, learn things about nearly every subject imaginable, and generally become better partners both in and out of the Kink and Fetish scenes.  And, as with every other social network of note out there, members can write Journal Entries (think Facebook’s Notes) to share something outside one of the Groups.  Journal Entries and pictures have a “Love This?” button similar to Facebook’s “Like” feature.  Where Fetlife differs, however, is that pictures, videos, and journal entries that receive a great amount of love within a short period of time end up in the Kinky and Popular feed.

The Kinky and Popular feed is a page dedicated to the items of the day (or even time of day on a busy day) that has been clicked on the most for the “Love This” button.  As expected of a site geared toward adult members, the majority of the pictures, videos, and articles are of an adult nature, and in theme with the site often have an element of Kink, Fetish, or BDSM to them.  Some exquisite Shibari rope bondage work has been featured, including one woman suspended with multiple ropes stretched out to resemble angels wings.  Some of the artists and models are truly majestic in their presentations.  However, mixed in with all the imagery are the journal articles, and lately there has been a theme.  A theme of utmost importance within not only the Fetish/BDSM Lifestyle but also among the Swinger and Poly Lifestyle.  This theme is consent.

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30 Days of Truth, Day 11 : Something people seem to compliment you the most on.

We’re into double digits and over a third complete in the 30 Days of Truth series!  Let’s see what’s on the docket today!

 

Day 11

Something people seem to compliment you the most on.

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