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Nothing Is Trivial

SINful friends, I borrow the title of today’s post from the 1994 film The Crow, the last starring role for Brandon Lee, the son of Bruce Lee.  Brandon suffered a fatal accident during the filming of The Crow, which made many of his lines in the film all the more poignant.  For me the one that always stuck out was when Brandon Lee’s character Eric Draven, while speaking of his dead fiancee Shelly, says “Little things used to mean so much to Shelly. I used to think they were kind of… trivial. Believe me, nothing is trivial.”

Right now that line hurts.  It stabs me in the gut and twists and rips. I know if I’m affected like this Mrs. AP is feeling it a dozen, a hundred, a thousand times worse.

Last night, yesterday, whatever it’s called at this point, Mrs. AP lost a life-long friend.  The Tampa Bay area lost one of it’s long-time community influences.  The Castle family lost a brother.  And while I met Jim Beeler only once, his radiance and warmth and genuine goodness will forever be emblazoned in my memory.  As others have better said elsewhere, he is gone too soon.

Nothing is trivial, SINful friends.  While I know we don’t need the untimely passing of a loved one, friend, or even passing acquaintance to remind us of that, the sting of this won’t pass for me unless I work through it.  For Mrs. AP, who has known Jim for as long as she can remember, this wound will take much longer to heal.

If you knew Jim and need information regarding his memorial service or his life celebration afterward, information can be found via the events posted to The Castle’s Facebook page.

Stay SINful, friends.

22 responses

  1. I am sorry to hear about this Mr. AP, but what a lovely tribute.

    August 29, 2012 at 4:02 am

  2. How very poignant. Sorry and sad to hear of a loss to someone that was close to you.


    August 29, 2012 at 6:16 am

    • Tori, thank you. Mrs. AP is taking it pretty hard. I’m just trying to be here for her.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      August 30, 2012 at 3:29 am

  3. ” “The clock is running. Make the most of today. Time waits for no man. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it is called the present.”

    August 29, 2012 at 8:19 am

    • As always, you’re a wise man. Thank you, Scot.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      August 30, 2012 at 3:30 am

  4. Sorry to hear for the loss and I hope Mrs Ap will find peace soon.

    August 29, 2012 at 9:12 am

    • In time healing will come. Grief and mourning must be faced first. Thank yo ufor the support.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      August 30, 2012 at 3:31 am

  5. Sirqsmlb

    I’m sorry for your loss. It’s hard when the universe feels grey after the loss of someone important to us. Thank you for the reminder – Nothing is trivial.

    August 29, 2012 at 3:15 pm

    • Yes. Gray and a little numb, but go on we must. Thank you for the support.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      August 30, 2012 at 3:31 am

  6. karen blue

    Sorry. Time will help to lessen the hurt.

    August 30, 2012 at 6:21 am

  7. kinkydesoto

    Sending you all love and light.

    August 30, 2012 at 8:23 am

  8. So sorry.

    August 30, 2012 at 11:15 am

  9. Sorry to hear about this. Always difficult to lose someone close. All my best to you and Mrs. AP

    August 30, 2012 at 11:43 am

    • Thank you sir. We’ll take your best anytime. 🙂

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      September 1, 2012 at 9:26 pm

  10. freakyv

    I’m so sorry, I must of missed this post 😦 Thinking of you all.

    August 30, 2012 at 12:09 pm

  11. So sorry for your loss…

    August 31, 2012 at 1:45 am

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