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Getting Back in Focus

Thursday I had a business trip for a client.  It was sprung on me late Wednesday night, which led to much scrambling to prepare, as there were some things I needed to bring that were still backed in boxes from the recent move.  As unexpected, hectic, last minute, and exhausting as it was, this trip was a very good thing for me in multiple ways.  I’m still in recovery mode a bit, but I learned several good things.  Hey Mr. No Name, here’s a list (since I know you love them so) :

1) Mrs. AP and I have awesome sex when we force the kids to go to bed well before we’re exhausted.  Lately we’ve been letting them just stay up — it’s summer, and I work overnight for my “Day Job”, so the longer the kids stay asleep during the day the more uninterrupted sleep I get.  Sadly, the adverse affect of this is that Mrs. AP and I are usually so exhausted by the time the young ones DO go to sleep that all we do is snuggle and cuddle and talk and pass out.  Now, I adore this quiet time with Mrs. AP.  I love how we reconnect and de-stress and rely upon each other to help us end our day.  But Wednesday night we put the kids to bed a little earlier to make sure we could reconnect before my trip, and hot damn was it intense.  Her eyes were burning with passion as I slid atop her, and every little touch from me seemed to push her into another orgasm before I even entered her.  She came as my cock brushed her clit.  She came as I entered her.  She came as I bottomed out inside her.  Short, hard orgasms rocked her one after another, and very soon we were at it like teenagers who hadn’t seen each other for a week.  We exploded, saw new galaxies, and both felt much better for it.  I think it’s something we definitely need to remember that we need as a couple.

2) I have been out of my career field — I’m an Information Technology Specialist by trade and training — for far too long.  It’s been 3 years since I got to put my skills to good use, and in this instance, I was able to recall everything from configuring my client the last time around to resolve an issue faster than they thought possible.  The fact that none of their existing people could solve in a day what took me an hour only further cemented my desire to be back in that game, now.

3) I miss flying for work.  I bounced, all told, between 5 airports in a one day round-trip business trip.  From Tampa to Houston to Dallas (Love) to DFW in the morning, and then from DFW to Charlotte to Tampa in the evening.  Yes, I had a 17 hour work day in the middle of my “weekend.”  Yes, I flew on 4 different planes and slept on 2 of them, yes I had to sit through a delay in Charlotte, something that happens every time I hit that airport after 5 pm.  It was long, and tiring, and exhausting, and I loved it.  I love the feeling of power behind the takeoff.  I love looking out the window and seeing nothing but sky, or watching towns I know pass under me and gaining a new perspective on where I live or work.  Once upon a time I had 2 -3 business trips a month, usually just a few days each.  I’ve had two such trips since July 2009, and both have been in the past 4 months.  There’s a rhythm to airports and planes that I missed.  It’s funny the things to which one adapts.

4) I will only get back into this field if I work harder at reminding my client why they need me on staff full time.   This trip served as a perfect way to get my foot in the door.  My deep experience with them previously gives me experience and knowledge that nobody else can match.  I am uniquely qualified to offer a level of service simply unobtainable from anybody else, and after this past week, I have reaffirmed that claim.  This is my job to win back.

Time to step to.


Stay SINful, friends.

12 responses

  1. It is difficult sometimes trying to find that elusive time alone when you have children more especially in the school holidays, my 15yr old is at the age where i cant really send him to bed too early..its a pain! and my daughter at 10 is a little easier.

    Thankfully i have a wanderful mother and every so often they stay with her for a couple nights to give us that much needed time alone together.

    Its always great i think when you love your job and your confident that you do it well, i feel much the same about mine..i work with children with special needs…good luck with winning it back.

    July 22, 2012 at 6:30 am

    • Oddly enough, we would have more time alone if we could get Genius Child back home from Mrs. AP’s mother, but he’s nearly 15 and happy to stay away from his siblings as long as he can. When he’s home he entertains Princess and Tank so Mrs. AP and I can have quiet time without having to worry about being interrupted.

      Thank you! I’m sure I’ve got it back as long as I stay on top of things they need. I love how I get to start as a consultant/contractor and work my way back in to full time.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 22, 2012 at 8:00 pm

  2. kinkydesoto

    Glad the trip was good for you! I hope you get what you want.

    My kids are 12 and 10 and we live in a small home, so it is getting more difficult to find time and opportunity to play like we want. It’s awesome when they go to camp or the grandparents’ houses.

    July 22, 2012 at 10:33 am

    • Mrs. AP’s mom only takes Genius Child; her girlfriend won’t allow Princess and Tank to come over, so a trip to grandmother’s house ends up leaving us without our built in babysitter. It’s not ideal by any means, but we make it work. I hear you on the small house, though. This new job, once I land it, will help us move into something a little less… cramped.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 22, 2012 at 8:03 pm

  3. Thanks for the list!

    I love the feeling of being really good and really valuable Iin your job. Let know they can’t succeed without you!

    Mr. No Name

    July 22, 2012 at 4:11 pm

    • Oh, they thought they knew before, but they really know now. The fact that I fixed in an hour what they couldn’t in sixteen spoke far more loudly than any argument I could have presented.

      You’re welcome for the list. I know you love them so. 😉

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 22, 2012 at 8:05 pm

  4. Oh, sending the kids early to bed is a win.

    I miss IT too! It’s lovely to see that you can still step back in after 3 years. It’s been just a wee bit longer for me.

    July 22, 2012 at 4:45 pm

    • It helps greatly that I have some existing rapport with the CIO, who is the point of contact for me as my client. He and I worked together on basically the same program before, and I’ve used that to my full advantage.

      Kids to bed (and quiet) early is ALWAYS a win!

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 22, 2012 at 8:07 pm

  5. This is a really good list and I love the insight into your other life as well. Traveling for work is fun as long as it is not often. Both H and I have done enough of it over the years that we can kill a whole evening comparing airports. My least favorite is Kansas City, but Dallas (if you have to fly through there, not arrive) is a close second. 🙂

    Play dates for adults are good, so don’t forget number one. 🙂

    July 22, 2012 at 5:27 pm

    • There are a lot that are no fun. I LOVE Denver’s main terminal, though. The roof is amazing, and the only domestic terminal in which I’ve been that beats it is the new JetBlue terminal at JFK. You’re right, DFW is no fun, but I think Indianapolis and BWI are worse. Those places need face-lifts, and fast.

      Play dates for adults ARE good, and I shan’t forget that one, no. Thank you. 🙂

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 22, 2012 at 8:12 pm

  6. I love getting the kids to bed off early! It really is hard with little ones and work to carve out enough private time. We get downright desperate sometimes…

    July 22, 2012 at 10:52 pm

    • My work nights are overnight 12 hour shifts, too, which become very draining by day 3. I know once the new job becomes a fulltime gig that will become less of an issue, but until then…

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 23, 2012 at 4:47 am

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