Switch It Up
In the realm of BDSM the grouping of individuals is generally regarded in Binary terms. Dom and sub. Master and slave. Many of you readers strongly identify with one of these labels; just a quick look down the blogroll even shows these terms in several of your blog titles. Whether you’re training your slave to follow orders or you just really need your partner to bend you over and spank you sometimes, the deep need to operate within that mode is such a strong part of you that you feel something is missing when you don’t get proper playtime. In a way, I envy you, because the need to feed just one mode does not exist within me. I do not have the strong, overwhelming urge to be a good little submissive to Mrs. AP all of the time, nor do I feel that correlating urge to dominate her all the time. No, SINful friends, I have it much better and much worse. When it comes to those kinds of urges, I get them both.
I am a Switch.
As the title suggests, I switch between being Dominant and being submissive. This should come as no surprise, though. Just as my sexuality does not lie far to either extreme of the spectrum, neither do my BDSM tendencies. There are times when all I want to have happen is for Mrs. AP to unleash her Domme side and have her take me, own me, and use me to her gorgeous heart’s delight. I love it when she pushes me down and takes what she wants without giving me any say in the matter. I adore it when she finds my spots and works and teases and plays until the feelings are overwhelming and I’m floating in subspace. In those moments, I will do anything she asks, anything she desires, and I won’t question her about it. I am hers to use, and I know she won’t abuse that.
Other times, though, my Dom needs to be unleashed. I need to control her, to make her remember that she is mine, that I can do what I like with her and that if she goes with it she will find pleasure she has never before known. I will hurt her, I will ravage her, and she will swoon from it, but never will I harm or abuse her. I know she can take the assault, I know she can take the spanking and hair pulling and throat grabbing and be all the better for it. When I unleash the Dom, we’re both completely spent afterward.
It may be obvious to many of you that while I am a Switch I have a natural lean slightly to the submissive side. It is true, I live to make Mrs. AP happy, and my sub tendencies to fall more under the service category than anything else. This helps make me a damn good house-husband when I’m home. When I switch to Dom, I’m not always aggressive. Sometimes, oftentimes, I am the sensuous Dom. I want to control Mrs. AP, yes, but not always by grabbing her hair and forcing her to take what I give her. Instead, I overwhelm her. I caress, I tease, I take my time building and building and building until the waves come endlessly, one after another, and she begs for me to give her more. In those moments, she is mine. Her orgasms are mine to control. If I want her to squirt, she will, and she cannot stop me. If I think she needs one of her glass dildos up her ass, I will make sure she takes it. If I decide she needs my fist inside her soaking pussy, I will give it to her. She is mine to use, and use her I will, until she begs for me to stop.
Even then, I’ll probably just keep going.
Stay SINful, friends.