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Non-Smoking Please

In many states throughout the U.S., there are two questions asked by the wait staff upon entering a restaurant before the party is seated; “How many in your party?” and “Smoking or Non-Smoking Section?”  The answers to these two questions determines both location within the establishment and the potential wait time before a table is available.  However, in many states (such as Florida) the “Smoking or Non-Smoking” question is not asked thanks to a law passed a few years back known as the Florida Clean Indoor Air Act.  The act banned smoking in public buildings such as libraries, indoor malls, airports, government facilities, and business buildings.  It also bans smoking in restaurants that earn more than a certain percentage of total income from food sales (I believe this number sits between 30 and 40 percent, although I cannot confirm this with the official statutes at this time.)  It’s been 10 years since the voter-passed amendment instituted this ban, and it’s been wonderful for me.   But I got to thinking today, where else might a smoking ban be useful?

I grew up asthmatic, and as puberty kicked in that evolved to seasonal allergies.  While this is both a blessing and a curse — pine pollen kicks my ass every year — one the lingering effects as an adult is that I am extremely sensitive to the smell of cigarette smoke.  In an outdoor area I can smell a cigarette from 10 – 20 feet away, more if the wind is carrying it my way.  Make that area enclosed, and I can usually smell it anywhere within a 50 foot radius.  And smokers, let me just say, your habit reeks.

The Castle, which Mrs. AP and I love, is not a smoke free environment.  We mitigate the effects by spending time on the back patio when we can and avoiding proximity to lit cigarettes as much a possible, but when we come home we have to immediately strip and get our clothes in the wash and then hop in the shower to get the smell of smoke off of us.  The absolute worst thing is to skip the shower and wake up smelling smoke in each other’s hair.

If just being around other people’s smoke makes us smell bad, what does it do for the people actually inhaling through the end of that little stick of paper, nicotine, and various chemical byproducts?  Sadly, I have some experience in this; twice I have had playtime with a smoker, and both times have led to the same conclusion.  Smokers do not taste pleasant.  Not to kiss, not to nibble, not to bite, and by all means not to taste bodily fluids.  The phrase “you are what you eat” is very much applicable her, as both male and female tasted like, well… smoke.   Because of this, Mrs. AP and I have a general Non-Smoking policy in place when it comes to potential partners or playmates.

This makes me wonder; how many other people don’t want to date / sleep with / play with a smoker?  Surely Mrs. AP and I are not alone in this.  Goodness, we’ve even both been known to cringe and back away when we see somebody attractive light up or take a drag.  If we react that strongly toward others smoking, there must be others who react as we do.  Is this a marketable demographic?  Could we start a website or business that caters to smoke-free dating exclusively?

I feel like there’s opportunity here…

Stay SINful, friends.

19 responses

  1. I personally cannot stand smoking. I grew up with my parents always smoking and vowed never to smoke myself. I also work at a casino (cleaning ash trays no less, lol). I am around smoking all day. Its a nasty, messy habit. I also can’t imagine ever dating a smoker and it is a huge turn off when I meet anyone who does smoke.

    July 16, 2012 at 2:06 am

    • Oh goodness, cleaning ashtrays has got to be the worst! You have my sympathies!

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 16, 2012 at 4:43 am

  2. I used to smoke and i admit i enjoyed it….i know..i can anyone enjoy it but its an addiction, then i met the bossman who is very much anti smoking and well he isnt exactly known for his tact either. When we first met up and afterwards we spoke on the phone to talk to each other about how we thought about things he said to me he wouldnt change anything about me but the cigarettes had to go, he would help and support me but his first decision as my domiant would be to put an end to the smoking.

    I quit, it was not easy by any means but he was a great support, i have had the odd lapse but they are very far and few between.


    July 16, 2012 at 5:58 am

    • I’m always proud of those who quit. You’ve got a good Dom to insist on the quitting and then assist with it. Support for something like that is always needed, and he was good to provide it.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 16, 2012 at 6:17 am

  3. Smoking is a big turn off for me. I worked it a bar for years when I was going through University, the smell of my clothes at the end of the night was awful! I had to shower before bed, and the smell of the cigarettes would come out of my hair!

    Right after I quit bartending they passed a bill here (that’s what we Canadians call it) similar to the one in Florida. It has since been extended to basically every public place, except the designated smoking areas; kind of what you see at an airport.

    If I was single, I would never date a smoker, just too much for me. But I probably wouldn’t kick her out of bed, unless she smoked in bed.

    July 16, 2012 at 10:27 am

    • I cannot imagine being in that environment for work every day. Wait, I CAN imagine, and it makes me want to cough. How ever did you manage?

      The two airports I’ve been in recently in Florida don’t even have designated interior smoking rooms. The only place to smoke is outside the main terminal before passing through security. Once beyond security, there’s no smoking until having reached your destination. Oh, how the hardcore smokers take exception to that rule!

      I might kick a smoker out of my bed if the smell of smoke still lingers, and performing oral is flat out not an option. Which really means, for me, that I might as well save myself the trouble and just not go there.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 16, 2012 at 7:16 pm

  4. My first sexual relationship was with a smoker. It was kind of horrible. He quit, then he started again just before we physically met.

    Thankfully it didn’t last long.

    Some neighborhood kids live in a smoking household and spend a lot of time with us – no matter how soon after a bath it is, hugging them gets that smoke smell all up in your nose and.. yeah. They get teased at school too. It’s not their faults, but it’s certainly not pleasant. The parents both smoke inside and have all the windows blocked up for insulation purposes – but it also keeps that smoke inside. UGH.

    July 16, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    • Ohhhh, I cannot imagine blocking up windows down here. Granted, during the summer we keep heavy blinds and black-out curtains on the windows to keep the heat down inside, but when the weather is nice all the windows get opened for the breeze. Those poor kids! I would want to rescue them!

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 16, 2012 at 7:12 pm

      • Believe me, I did. Two of them spend every spare minute at our place when we are at home, and the oldest (a girl) spent the night with us once a week when we were there. (we’re in a weird transitional phase between being at home right now, so my tenses are all screwy)

        July 17, 2012 at 1:50 pm

      • Transitional phases are fun! Sometimes. Other times just very stressful.

        Good for you for helping! Our house often ends up being the hang-out point for Genius Child and his friends because “we’re the cool parents who let them get away with stuff.” Really, all we ask is that they be courteous, clean up after themselves, and not curse in front of the younger children. Apparently that’s the cool thing these days. Who knew?

        Stay SINful
        Mr. AP

        July 17, 2012 at 7:17 pm

  5. I smoked for years, but quit over 2 years ago – when Dad was diagnosed with cancer (he never smoked).

    There are 2 major swing clubs here: Miami Velvet and Trapeze Club. The Trap went smoke free, but Velvet has not. It is not overwhelming, but I wish they would go smoke free.

    Mr. No Name

    July 16, 2012 at 4:34 pm

    • Rock on for quitting! I know that must have been tough.

      I lost a grandmother to cancer when I was in my early teens. I was angry for years that my grandfather’s way of helping was to drop from smoking 3 packs a day to 1 pack a day.

      Eyz Wide Shut has a smoking area out back for those who need it, but everything inside is smoke free. I cannot imagine going to kiss or nibble on somebody and tasting nothing but smoke in that environment. *shudder*

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

  6. I grew up living in a small trailer with 2 smoking parents who also thought nothing of lighting up in the car, with the windows shut. So needless to say, I despise smoking. Not smokers, but the nasty habit. With that said, the hubby (who smoked for a lot of years, but never in the house, and quit about 6 years ago) and I choose either nonsmokers or courteous smokers.

    The only club we went to was not a smoke free environment. We won’t be going back there again.

    July 17, 2012 at 7:23 am

    • Thanks for stopping by. I know what you mean. Some of my good friends smoke, but do so courteously and know that I won’t be near them when they are or just have been. Even with their courtesies I still smell it lingering on the afterward; it’s in their hair or on their clothes, to the point where hugs are uncomfortable for my nostrils sometimes.

      More clubs (swing and vanilla) should be smoke free, I think. In Florida, studies have found that customers inside non-smoking establishments spend more on drinks and food, so it’s good for business to disallow smoking.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 17, 2012 at 7:12 pm

  7. I am very anti-smoking. I grew up in a smoke-free home, but all my relatives smoked so I was around it a lot. It is on the “must” list for me – I won’t even consider you if you’re a smoker. When the BF and I started talking, he was a smoker and had been since about 13 or 14 years of age (he grew up in a smoking home). I told him it was a dealbreaker and he offered to quit.

    I said “OK” but only if he quit before we even met. He started cutting back immediately and cut back to 1-2 a day until a few days before we met. Then he quit cold turkey so when he saw me all he needed was a shower and clean clothes to get rid of the smell. He completely understood my wish for him to shower/wash his clothes and never thought I was weird for it.

    Now we avoid smoking together and he hates it like I do. I too am super sensitive to the smell, even from a distance, and hate it.

    July 18, 2012 at 12:04 am

    • I think it’s a fine testament to how amazing he finds you that he quit at your behest. He sounds wonderful.

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 18, 2012 at 1:04 am

  8. freakyv

    Well I haven’t completed my post as I have some things to clear up. BUT I did makeout with Eye Candy and while it was good, I was bothered by the taste of tobacco . My town is smoke free. Many Swinging profiles will say if they won’t tolerate it or if they are smokers. I occassionally smoke, maybe once or twice a year. It’s how you know I am really pissed off, if you see me with a cig, watch out!

    July 18, 2012 at 1:25 am

    • Duly noted! That’s what I come by, take it from you, and stamp if out for your own good, right? Followed immediately by a duck and cover? lol

      Stay SINful
      Mr. AP

      July 18, 2012 at 2:47 am

      • freakyv

        I will have to say, although I am not pissed, I may need a cig to take my mind off sexual frustrations!!! I probably need to find someone to spank me also, I’m thinking I deserve it!

        July 18, 2012 at 7:02 am

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