Friday night Mrs. AP and I had a date 3 weeks in the making. It wasn’t Vanilla per se — we discussed Poly and BDSM and a portion of the local community — but it wasn’t wholly Non-Vanilla either. Turns out there’s a gray, blended area where Vanilla and Non-Vanilla swirl together into what I hencefoth deem Vanilla-esque. Aren’t I catchy?
Said date was Non-Vanilla in multiple ways beyond the topics discussed. Our date, Rigger, found our profiles on OKCupid and sent us both messages, which led quickly into talks of profiles on FetLife. Perving on FetLife turned to becoming friends on FetLife, where the vast majority of the conversations have taken place between us. This is where one of my recent posts rings true; I’d had several chances to begin conversation with Rigger but failed to do so simply by waiting for him to start. Ooops. I’m a dumbass.
So through FetLife we arranged a date, finally, and thanks to certain life circumstances leaving no other options the date occurred with Princess and Tank in tow. This necessitated having the date at not only a public space, which we always do for meeting somebody for the first time, but also a family friendly public space. Right. Cheap family-oriented chain restaurant to the rescue!
Rigger is a good looking guy. He’s not much taller than me, which is nice, as it makes giving hugs easy. He’s got a good looking jaw structure and a kind face and incredibly intelligent eyes. I love intelligent eyes. Nothing kills a good face more than dull eyes. I want to see the brain working through those tiny little portal windows to the soul, and his was running at full speed the entire time. I actually felt bad about it, as a headache had bee plaguing me all day and I wasn’t running at full speed. Nevertheless, I held my own and the three of us had a good conversation.
Rigger, as his name may give away to the more BDSM savvy crowd, loved to play with rope. In particular, he is well practiced and greatly skilled at Shibari, or the art of rope bondage. Mrs. AP has experiences with Shibari but I do not. My experience thus far is looking at some very intricate, absolutely stunning pieces of Shibari Art that are gorgeous. Yes, the person is the canvas, and a good rigger will implement other fixtures to help stage a scene, but it is art nevertheless, and I am intrigued.
I want to be tied up. I want to do the tying up. This is probably my Switch aspect of my personality shining through, but I want to learn how to make this gorgeous art and how to be this gorgeous art and also use it in every wonderful erotic fashion imaginable. As gorgeous as an art Shibari may be, it is also very useful for positional bondage, and oh my goodness the things than could happen by being in or putting somebody else in some very compromising positions. Yes, THAT! That too! Yes, that as well. No, your imagination did not take that too far. Just go with it.
Rigger looks to have potential to be a good friend or more. I look forward to seeing how we evolve.
Stay SINful, friends.